So I went through a year or so of half straight/half permed hair and tried to work the best I could. Then finally in July, I was able to stop trying to make the bottom match the new growth and did a video on that here.
Now, my hair is silky, shiny and I don't blow-dry anymore, I just let it air dry and comb and go. I was blow-drying maybe once a month but I cringed every time I did it, so now I just prepare ahead of time to give my hair time to dry on its own and it has really improved in appearance. Then I still do the coconut oil - yes, I still use the cheap, Louann's Walmart brand lol - I know, I know.......I suppose I should spend more and get the organic real stuff but hey - if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
I curl my hair with a VERY low heat curling iron once in a while and tonight one of those times so hubby took some pictures so I can do this update. I can hold my hand on my curling iron and actually leave it there without it burning me - that is how low the heat is when I curl my hair. There really isn't any damage, just barely-there heat. I have done higher heat and I do get tighter curls but the one time I did that a few months ago, I got a LOT of broken hairs and it was enough to scare me to not do it again lol. =0