What example have we given? Why have some been so lazy doing their Godly role as a homekeeper as to bring a reproach? I will tell these commentors (you know who you are) that I apologize on behalf of these women and their lack of example. It isn't supposed to be that way and a Godly homekeeper will be about NOT JUST HER HOME but her family and betterment of her husband in the community as well! She isn't one to be known as a gamer, sit on her butt all day internet surfing and she surely doesn't spend hours in being a busybody catching up on other's affairs! She isn't down with the latest gossip, is willing to help a friend in need, prays for her family daily, and sees every venture outside her home as a chance for God to use her to touch someone's life that day!The question was posed, very sarcastically - about what I think about a woman who hires others (with or without pay) to clean her home. I will give my opinion - if she is well-abled physically/mentally, then why would she have others perform her role? Is it time for a new baby? I know moms need help during that time. Or does she deem something else more important than what God has called her to do - keep her home? I remember a time when I was so busy that I didn't have time to eat, typing notes and I paid a friend $20 to scrub my tub and do my dishes. I kept telling myself it was ok and was going to keep it going because I was doing the will of God by typing my notes for Seminary - but really I should have kept my family and Godly role first. Here I was, training to be a minister's wife, with a husband that would be preaching the woman is to be a keeper at home and I wasn't even keeping my own home!
Recently, a woman over me in the Lord told me that I must tell others that they need to do what I'm doing (cooking and home management). Do you know how much I wanted to cry at this moment? Why cry you may say? Because, the reason I set this blog up in the first place was to help others with what I took years to research and learn myself ONLY to be ridiculed, attacked, gossiped about and even shunned by some who used to be my friends. One person confided in me and told me that a group was talking about me and how great I thought I was and they called me super-spiritual and lot of other things. Do I think these people are saved? NO! But, I prayed for them and forgave them. What I wanted to tell this dear, woman of God was that it wasn't just as easy as saying - hey, do this and it will help you. Others will change your intention and good motive into something evil or prideful and say your a show off.
I will tell you my story. I wasn't born a homekeeper and I never knew how to cook until after I got married. I didn't even know how to boil an egg! My mother had no time for me and I didn't know how to wash clothes or clean and all the other things that maybe most women learned alongside their mothers growing up. Mine worked and then a lot of things happened to me that ended my childhood a bit early. When I got married, I had to teach myself everything! I spent years learning, researching, experimenting and trying to get the skills I needed as a woman/wife/mother/homekeeper. I wish I had a Godly older woman that would have taken the time to show me these things but everyone is so 'busy' these days to help the younger generation it seems.
After many years and upon arriving in Washington state and seeing how women didn't know how to keep home, much less be frugal - I saw a need. I remember one lady in particular that helped us move in our belongings. She wondered why I had a freezer and I began to tell her about buying in bulk, etc. She had no clue and sadly she struggled so much she eventually left God and her husband. The poor girl needed some help but where was the help? I tried to show her what I knew with what time had afforded me with a 2yr old running around but clearly no one had taken the time out to help her learn to be a homekeeper or a wife. How many will we let slip through the cracks? Who will help another with the skills you have? I started a blog to help that sister out there who was like me years ago - hopefully easing her learning and teaching her in a short time what took me years. I hope to give that example, even though I'm not the older woman, I can't seem to find too many that are available to help the younger generation sadly. Ironically, my mom and I, are very close now and she likes to send me recipes she wished she had taught me to cook years ago. I told her to not live in regret but know that I'm ok now and I will teach my daughter and tell others. She tells me to keep doing that and spreading the word to other women to stay home and take care of their husbands and children!
Not everyone has to scrounge the yard sales, sit around bored, facebook gaming all day and putting down another through gossip. That is not the example we should be giving and I hope to try - though I'm imperfect, have had big failures and have many faults - to help another in some way through this blog.
*I'm now allowing anonymous comments. I had taken them away a few months ago but if you are really wanting an answer and for some reason afraid of giving your name - I will respond.
